As I left, here she comes in her truck with her 5 dogs and her mother? I have to say his drama is entertaining at times. And Its just not coming out the way it did before. I came across this at a time where I so desperately needed it. I thought I had finally gotten over the crazy woman syndrome, and in fact had dated some very cool women over the last several years. She said, you know he is with a new lafy with kids lol. Not fighting. It hurts and its much easier and feels exteme happy if i should react. I am simply thinking about this non stop. Thats why to get many of them in the same group is no surprise to professionals, so the term psychopathic mob was coined, and what me and you are in, is known as character assassination. The new supply doesnt know the narcissists agenda and will go along with whatever the narcissist asks of them. Stay strong and dont give in! 2. He shared school supplies and candy with me. I only mention this in order to highlight the fact that everything he claimed to love about me and find in common with himself are now the things he hates and denigrates. He said he has changed. Would his initials be BM by any chance? Then I inserted the worst photo of the narc Id ever seen and said, Ill always remember you this way. I have examined my heart and mind, and I love him purely and truly. Yeah rightI asked him the night he walked out what he wanted to do with that freezer and he told me to keep it. I broke all contact 4 months after he left and I know he asks about me and watches my social media pages. I left her and my main concern now would be what if she comes back to mefrom stories I read they always come back I dont know how I would proceeded depending on what she will say even though I learned about all the shady tactics and such.. Anyway, I told his mom after that conversation that I was not going to just give it to her as my reason for selling it was for the money cause the ex left me with no money or job but if she wanted to buy it, she could like any other person. Yes I did tell him i know he is a narc and i also told the girlfriend that she is in triangulation and she defended that of course, cause she thinks he is wonderful to the point where she told my children that failure of marriage was my fault. He actually hit me with a bag of garbage and then dumped the garbage over all of my belongings (which I was trying to get together at the time to physically leave.) when the narcissist stops contacting you. I have just left another narcissistic man after putting myself through 4 1/2 yrs of love and then abuse only to continue on the same hamster wheel again and again. She would tell me how things she did to me would make her sick to her stomach, etc. Hell find someone else once he gets bored like they always do. I just need to share this as I feel lost sometimes, but on the right path.I wanted to share this, as I am scared of my ex. EVERYTHING THEY DO IS FOR SOME JUSTIFIABLE REASON. 30 days of No Contact are the pivot of embracing the breakup and trying to fix yourself. I love the way you feel on me. Now her and I are friends and I found out these were peace offerings so that he wouldnt pull his nasty games with her. It doesn't matter if you're the mother of their children. What their relationship style . The peak end rule. No response IS actually a response. Although they are the true monster behind the scenes , I can't help think they are real. If only it were easier to spot them immediately! Unlike alot of other stories Ive read; he treated me pretty well for the 2 years we were together. Little did I know his ex was a codependent strung along for nearly a decade. He started putting likes on my posts on Instagram. He moved right into her place. Even at sixty five she turned heads. But because of al my reading and study this sites and now for the first time have someone talking back at me Eden, i feel supported. Never wanting to own any accountability for their behavior, and, always blaming others for their shortcomings. He was a chubby boy with glasses who grew up to be a very handsome man. The love letter is so true thanjs for writing it up plainly. I think he will probably try again with you and when hes certain youre done he will try to make u miserable..by being difficult with the kids and whatever he can do to push your buttons. When her dad met someone else she turned out to be the evil step mum to the point where shed stub out cigarettes on her. Ive supported her through so much, mentally, emotionally, financially and she doesnt seem to remember any of it. At first, he tried doing friends with benefits but I declined. I love having someone new to tell my stories to, to express my opinions, and to share my profound theories and beliefs about the important things in life. it had become so defining, or at least had become a thing that I was constantly engaged with even though my interactions were full of stress depression anger when I went NC I found the emptiness hard to cope with, looking then at my newly ostracized place outside of the community I had up till then freely enjoyed I was now even bereft of the abuser and in a way I was so lonely that I missed even that utterly perverse I know, Now having had this denouement where his approach and my acceptance of it has kind of taken the substance out of my circumstances the definition was clear and easy before I had just felt too that I had come to terms with everything and was getting on getting on. Basically, she was a runner. She ran away from all her problems and responsibilities. My Ex is of the malignant kind, so I have a lot of experience to draw from. NC is easy now and he isnt harassing me or anything. The torment they endure from narcassism couples with the strength of a very patriarchal religion, you have no idea! Then one day, my roommate said,hes such a damn narcissist! And a light went off!!!!! Before you know it, you have forgiven their faults, had babies by them and years have gon by and now you wish you would have left sooner. I feel like an idiot now, but the penny only really dropped for me about 5 months ago, about who and what Cameron really was. part of me doesnt want to do that because i want to see him coming in the event he tries something. The person Im with is a narcissist when I dont do one little thing its all over he says hes moving out hes told me he was going to leave like 20 times but doesnt go anywhere hes 50 Im 39 . Very clear for the first time. The dynamic is different from normal in so far as this is a group of people who take part in a sport I dont actually have to specifically spend time with this person but he is always there an omnipresence and vocal with it as you would expect its all about him the notion that he is as I suspect him to be is quite unambiguous. He borrowed thousands of dollars he never paid back. Finally Cameron is back with Kym she took him back in the last week. Mostly, its the Narcissist sending little texts, showing up at your door with flowers, coming to you because theyve had a life-changing epiphany where, through some kind of divine intervention, theyve been shown the pain and sorrow they put you through and promise to change. If not they should not be snooping Do you see what I mean? He liked every thing I liked. So whether your ex is serious or not, please dont fall for it. Ive been reduced to syrup! I know I have to end it although it is easier said than done. Reading Suggestion: What is narcissistic Supply? Firstly above all. I had PTSS at that time from it. 4. I am finally feeling free but I know when his latest partner has her fill he will come looking for me. He cant go. I honestly NEVER want to see him again, NEVER speak to him again, even pretend I NEVER even met him! also they robbed me financially. Thank you for your kind comment. When I was told ten years ago I had brain tumor over the phone I was on my way to therapy. Hope that helps. Good for you! He sat there for a minute in the truck as I slowly strolled back up to my door. Every time he comes back he says how sorry he is, how awful and miserable his life is without me, how he has no direction and no reason to live. Luckily it did not affect my work record because I spoke to the HR person who had studied psychology and new all about Narcs!! But very unattractive, theres no getting around it. THERE IS NOTHING THEY DONT KNOW EXACTLY ABOUT WHAT THEY ARE DOING AND WHY, NO UNCONSCIOUS!!! They want to think they have the option, even if only in their own minds,to come back someday. Im afraid of being utterly disappointed and having to start back from square one, so I do nothing. WOW Your story was almost identical to mine except I was going through divorce when that demon Narc targeted me. This man bullied me while I was pregnant to the point of me vomiting and having massive panic attacks, breathing into paper bags and begging God to end my life. I married an alcoholic whom didnt stay in recovery. After getting my email, the following day, he discarded his FB page and cut off the ex that he allowed to hover and all of the women I accused him of needing attention from. More often then not, Narcissists are described by their partners as the "perfect man/woman.". Also, how can you move in with someone you have not had sex with? Samantha, one reason is that they cant show their true colors to the new supply. I just woke up from a nightmare starring my all time "favourite" narcissistic ex gf! I have some new answers and new pride in myself. My tumors are back, and there are more than before. I was convinced that walking away would somehow make her the winner (we were like rivals at one point). After first break up there was No Contact for a year and a half and when I finally forgot all of the things that occurred and I was quickly back in a whirlwind romance; only to move back into the list above. He talked incessantly about everything..why people behave the way they do and how childhood impacts negative behaviors, blah blah. I f you think your ex is a narcissist, chances are they're probably not. I actually see that my relationship with this person has made me more determined to win by being the best me! Indifference is all I can muster now, and that beats anger, resentment and sadness any day. I know a few of these women and I have been one of the very few shoulders they have to lean on. What I It feels like love, but its really our body and mind withdrawing from the chemical addiction of the craziness and the brainwashing. Even if they treated you horrifically at the end or you told them never to contact you, there is a possibility they might return. It was like watching the cycles played over and over in my mind of the past 20 years!! He lies and lies and covers with excuses and tries to deflect blame. totally mental, but I am not mental even though hes tried his hardest to convince me that I am. They dont know half of whats been going on. Because narcissists only connect with people who provide narcissistic supply. You deserve a loving relationship with a man who will love and cherish you for the beautiful person that you are, and I believe you will receive that in His time. And there is a scared inmature little person who is scared of live and everything in it. The answer to that question is EVERYTHING! I am going to train my mind with positive things that shows me my capacitys and the people i am making smile. I literally have no idea. 3. Im trying hard to remain civil here, I wish there were a way to warn young adults against these predators. It also made me less valuable to her, I guess. And while he may be deeply flawed, I believe he loves me, or tried to love me as best as he could. 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My ex did the same. Not reliable. I also fell for his creativity and intellect. I believed him at first. Over time the demands became more intense, he lost more and more interest in me. Oh, and I want to be the first to say that my experiences pale in comparison to some women who have posted here and on other sites. Weird stuff that I havent experienced before. When he was leaving me, i asked him what he wanted to do with the brand new freezer hed bought me to replace mine that quit two months prior and he told me to keep it. I wish there were more male posters, because women with narcissistic traits are just as prevalent, and often more dangerous. Also, my husbands girlfriend was beaten very badly by her alcoholic ex and she has a special needs child. Havent heard a peep, which suits me fine. SIGN UP FOR MY HEALING PROGRAM AT A JUICY DISCOUNT:https://bit.ly/NEWLIFE30Article: Do You Sabotage Yourself With The Grey Rock Method? What a reward, huh? When he gives me the old lets meet for dinner line I tell him yea when I free up. Thanks for this great article and the comments of others! Theyll tell you what you want to hear to tart the cycle of abuse all over again when you implement the NO CONTACT. Its one big mind game. 3. It is a battle on both ends. Just now I received a call from the x about our daughter and school. I could not understand why/how he would use the detriment of our relationship to secure another. . Like what was said above, men are generally taught to remain strong and cover their feelings more often, which is why men dont post as much. Saying they had to end it because they were a victim of your ways and not the other way around. So, if I was not a narcissistic sociopath, then what am I? This means that 4-5 people out of 100 you know are these creatures!! Four years of emotional, verbal, mental and psychological abuse. I can tolerate that but not abuse. You cant imagine how many of us went (or are still going) through the same hell as you This blog is one of the best I have ever found since I woke up in 2007, for reliable, thorough, and most of all not judgmental info. There is so much more I could share but I know this has already gone on. We met a year after they split and to she was literally the best thing that had ever happened to me. So, does this mean, he is not into her and wants to come home but making it hell for me to show power and control. Hes like yah last few weeks Ive fantasized about it. Youve been emotionally and financially abused and cast-off like a paper bag from McDonalds. Here are some of the statements you can expect your narcissist ex to make: The narcissist knows full well theyre crazy, and if you left, they know that you know. Climbed the mountain I, now, can just walk towards the light. It is time to heal! But hes become a different person now that I know about his affair. And if they cant be guaranteed to stay away, we can stay on a roller coaster of emotion, wondering if and will they will return, and that gives them a considerable amount of control over us. We still feel their pain and still want to help them. Almost three weeks still not heard from him. They apparently return to any relationship if they think there is something to gain from it. [Read:6 Things That Explain Narcissistic Abuse in Relationships]. If someone wants to be part of it good. And they seem to come back as if nothing happened. They are used you are not used as a chance for you to have knowledge that But i wont bite the apple again. The term is character assassination. Why do I tell you this? I would recommend your getting counseling and contacting the suicide hotline at: https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=1&cad=rja&uact=8&ved=0CCIQ0kMoADAA&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.suicidepreventionlifeline.org%2F&ei=irtgVfLuEcqayASNhYHgCg&usg=AFQjCNE4Hv6RcsQlZUZgKuDddDBWMWUwvw&sig2=0EH5yuP0YMqLmaEdMf7V6w&bvm=bv.93990622,d.aWw. I fell for it every time due to my ignorance on this subject. If youd be interested in coaching to implement and maintain No Contact, I could also help you understand what made you his victim. The new supply doesn't know the narcissist's agenda and will go along with whatever the narcissist asks of them. I have had no one he was my mom dad bestfriend uncle grandparent I never had. All done to hide who they really are & what they are actually doing to you, PURE EVIL, This is however not about us Women can be Narcissists too and it is just as traumatic to a man as it is to a woman. Thank you Eden, That helps me a lot. We know his modus operandi as well that hes a narc. It's part of a healthy ego. But he is reportedly nowhere to be found. I was the one who had changed. It took a long time for me to stop being in love with my Ex. Why? I was blocked on her facebook Reading Suggestion: How to make a Narcissist Obsessed With You? Referred to as the hoover (or, as I like to call it, The Hoovering, because, to me, it smacks of a scary movie! Make no mistake; they have conditioned us to expect it. So this is a Choice them make Not a friend I want to keep, thank you very much. Since he told me I was mean and thats why he didnt want us and that I needed to learn how to grow up (to name a few things that have come out of his mouth). Maybe this is a part of his punishment of him. I would be willing to bet anything that that girl hes talking to, will soon be me. He waited two months. And in my mind it feels like if he walks behind me or is somewhere els in the shop. It took me stepping away from them and living at a greater distance from them, despite loving them unconditionally, to see the madness. He new millionaire boyfriend lives in Dubai. I find it really interesting and insightful. Maybe they're curious as to how you're doing or maybe they want to make you jealous. Some of the stories she told people about me, made me seem, cheap, needy, aggressive, highly emotional or flat out crazy. Most friends dont understand that i came back over and over again. Johns eloquence at the end is poetically breathtaking too. After all, if he is used to being a father, he is probably already adept at dealing with a female borderline/narcissist to some degree. know who and what he is, and he knows I know the truth about him. I have PTSD from being in a relationship with a narc, which has been clinically diagnosed but reading these articles can sometimes confuse the hell out of me. Leave them and never ever go back. :https://bit.ly/CantP. Now everything is a lot clearer to me. Powerful statements beautifully presented. Anyway I finally decided to see if this connection was for real (yes I know internet trolls exist, so I expedited meeting him), and before deciding to share any more information to a guy I had never met. He studied at the University of Amsterdam and has a bachelor's in Clinical Psychology. Reclaim your inner power, disarm the narcissist, and finally stay congruent with your wish for a healed life! Its so difficult for people to understand this on and of relations who did not went through this. Im working on why me, what made me his victim, how did I get here in this situation, how do I get out. Your child will be of value to the narcissistic father after divorce until they begin to age and start pulling away. We must lover ourself just as much as our childeren. His point is, that the traditional psychoanalytical approaches are very much applicable to all the neurotics (people with emotions, insane or healthy), BUT NOT THE DISTURBED CHARATERS, BECAUSE DEEP DOWN IMPLYES THEIR ACTING ON SUBCONCIOUS, AND THESE CHARACTERS KNOW EXACTLY WHAT THEY ARE DOING, THUS ACT CONCIOUSLY. The best thing to do is be yourself and let the Narc back himself into a corner. Our family had never fallen out until Dad died. Of course this last time is a completely different situation. Adding girls on fb, the porn everything. It took me awhile to realise that Cameron was a narcissist. I am creeving a lost dream. In personal relationships o began to recognize and see these traits, and slowly over some time, I gained enough experience and insight to walk away before they wove webs. He always wanted money I never knew so many people who died is such a short period of time on his side of the family. All to cover deep insecurities and traumas. Making new friends etc. A classic strategy narcissists use to keep their victims under control is belittling them. A few days after the restraining order hearing, I have my court date for the battery charge, which I am hoping will be dismissed due to the fact that I have pictures of abuse from last year. let them back in in anyway and you will find yourself back at Day One, curled up in a fetal position. What a typically thing to do for a N!!! Wow!!! But, then he was back. I think why I am asking this , is because he used to accuse me of overreacting all the time and being clingy. Why? If you go no contact, its done no ? She is now stopping me from seeing my son who is now three years old. 5. Be careful Eden. This is about THEM, All they need us for is to use us, lie to us, be nasty to us, verbally, emotionally & in some cases physically abuse us & dump all their hatred onto us, to make them feel bigger, stronger & better about themselves, and its all not their fault really Hopefully all the skills we need to make us even stronger & all the knowledge we need to ensure that we never ever give away our heart & soul to just anyone who doesnt deserve it and nor will we ever let anyone take from us so much of ourselves. Are You Not Losing Sleep Wondering Why He Does What He Does? Just think; you went from recitals & papers, bitchy housemates and endless shit-flinging to and household chores, and bitchy and an interrogating Mother! Relevant!! If this ex returns, it will NOT be good for you, no matter wha. What a tragedy that wouldve been. FAST and PRAY That gets Gods eyes on you. a tone (style of writing) that is oddly tinny or lighthearted or thin But if you want to stay friends to help them change and become the awesome person you know theyre capable of being, you will exhaust all your energy on this task. Two hours later, he texts back Happy Birthday, wish u many more. There are two scenarios in which a narcissist wants their ex back. He is an emotional vampire who will steal your car in the middle of the night to get himself a fix. If you observe that he is getting physically violent with you, contact the police. Because I got to see his good side (he has one). When you go into No Contact mode, you are shifting the power to yourself, and the narcissist loses their sanity because theyve lost not only their God-like power, but also their emotional punching bag. All of these behaviors youve listed are par for the course. Yes, Kim is right, the label doesnt matter, but the healing is important. They are all programmed the same way. Just left spinning, not knowing what hit us, But if you dig real deep & can manage to think through the brainwashing & brain fog, the one thing they cant and will never be able to take from us is our ability to Love. You are not alone, you dont need to do it alone. (for domestic violence, of course) and then killed in another country. I caught him lying about another girl again, my best friend that hes living with he left me and went right to her house, Im assiming its not innocent like they say is it? Replies appreciated! So instead of cutting ties completely, you wonder whether you can be friends with your ex. Say to him to stay away for ever and nothing to do with him anymore. He also seemed to get off on the attention he would receive on FB from him almost all female friends list. Thank you. Another thing I forgot! There is no difference than that dog and our beloved Narc. The more constituted him being deported!! The judge granted the RO because I psyclogically abused her after I found out about the affair. Cry, scream, get up, hug ur son, cry some morethere will be months of crying and feeling good then feeling bad again, missing him. Im proud to say it worked, i blocked her on social media, blocked her phone number and deleted her from my life, that was 6 months ago. at this point I had to do the no contact or else who knows, I would be okay until he explode again. You have to find a way to get your own closure. I would surely lose a battle like that in court, regardless of that shes lying. I dont know what to do, but I need to do SOMETHING because Im in limbo. Trust me,in hind sight he leaving would hav been the best of pa be. Although it took me completely off-guard, made me very nervous yet very happy and introduced me to some new emotions suddenly, I fell in love with you so hard Im still not sure what to do about it. Perhaps the narcissist will come back down the road with an apology for bad behavior or promises to answer outstanding questionsthe closure we never got. Narcissism is a serious pathology - applying to around only 6% of the population. He lied, manipulated, triangulated, gaslighted me. This whole crap about us teaching others how to treat us is bogus and only applies to people who dont carry around a moral compass of their own. That I seemed to have bipolar and need help. And now travel back in time almost 17 years Wed known each other three years, but had only been dating for six weeks at this point, as he first had a string of others he labeled everything from bipolar nymphomaniacs to bisexual stalkers. Having an ex unblock you can do a real number on your psyche; you tend to overthink, question their motives, feelings towards you, and most importantly, your feelings towards your ex. Once you finish going through the detox phase, which includes massive cravings for your narcissist, feelings of despair and emptiness (caused by a depletion of the hormone, oxytocin,) and the . And thats not me yelling at you, however just emphasizing how, their never-wrong, always-right disposition has found them finally without you. We can actually crave contact with them. Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. We had a very loving relationship, but it didnt stop him from being manipulative and verbally abusive when he felt hurt or angry. When the next argument arises and it will, you will be devalued and discarded and its all your fault. See if they can provide you with transitional housing until you can get on your feet. He even gave me advice and a shoulder to cry on when I was dealing with issues with my mom. You sound young. I read them when I feel weak and vulnerable. Reply . One and only. He had 4-5 jobs in the 4 years we were together. So I let her know I would not be giving it to her but she was welcome to buy it when I was ready to sell it and told her I hoped it wouldnt ruin our relationship. He refuses to talk to me hes very busy. So when I saw his truck pull into my driveway, I came out my house while on my phone and slowly strolled down the ramp (I have a handicapped ramp) and went to my car to get a paper that I needed to get as he pulled up. Therspist didnt mention anything about narcissism but one Christmas eve my ex narc left mw stranded. Then I finally said ok after he cried about how could you cut me off completely when we meant so much to each other Heres the problem. A narcissist will always return to an ex-lover to ensure that his narcissistic supply still pines for him and that she never moves on from the p Then again, she knows that I obsess about these things. I wish it where not. She would never admit she was wrong and her mood change at the drop of a hat. Any thoughts?? I love myself through you. 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